Original data reports and field guides on sex, intimacy, and relationships.
Sharing Sexual Fantasies: A Guide for Couples
Why sharing a fantasy feels risky, what Spicer data shows actually happens when couples compare desires, and how to say it — and hear it — well.
How to Talk to Your Partner About Sex Without Awkwardness
Couples agree about what they want more than they say out loud. A research-backed guide to talking about sex without the awkwardness.
The Yes/No/Maybe List: A Modern Couples' Guide
What a Yes/No/Maybe list is, why it builds consent in by design, how to read the six outcomes, and how to make one.
Vibrators During Sex: What 386,271 Couples Actually Said
Among 386,271 couples, 66.4% both said yes to using vibrators during sex; only 3.4% both said no. Men's yes rate (79.4%) slightly exceeded women's (75.7%).
Roleplay in Costumes: What 412,811 Couples Actually Said
Among 412,811 couples, 53.7% were open to roleplay in costumes — both partners answered yes or maybe. 21.5% both said yes; 49.4% included at least one maybe.
Waking a Partner with Sex: What Couples Want
Couples agreed more on waking a partner (64.6%) than on being woken (58.0%); men wanted it far more than women.
Restraints: Who Wants to Give, Who Wants to Receive
On restraints, the gender preference reverses: men lean toward restraining (75.9%), women toward being restrained (75.6%).
More Spontaneous Sex: What 253,240 Couples Want
Among 253,240 couples, 80.5% both said yes to more spontaneous sex; 94.6% had no explicit no.
Talking Dirty: Couples Want to Receive More Than Give
Couples both wanted to receive dirty talk (55.1%) more often than to give it (44.7%); men led on both sides.
A More Vocal Partner: What 398,512 Couples Want
Among 398,512 couples, 59.0% both said yes to a more vocal partner; 86.1% had no explicit no.
Sensual Massage: Who Wants to Give, Who Wants to Receive
On sensual massage, the gender preference reverses: men lean toward giving (82.0%), women toward receiving (83.5%).
Longer Foreplay: What 416,575 Couples Actually Want
Among 416,575 couples, 60.1% both said yes to longer foreplay; 83.9% had no explicit no.
